Originally posted by Life Founder and Author Claude Hamilton.
God bless, Scott Johnson
Think about the top five people you’re spending time with. Are they
successful? Committed to a cause? Do they toughen up when they need to?
If this sounds like the people you’ve surrounded yourself with, chances
are good that you’re going to be pretty successful yourself.
On the other hand, if those five people aren’t working towards
anything, quit when the going gets tough, and have poor lifestyle
habits, you probably do the same things.
My mother smoked for 42 years. Eventually, she got to the point where
she needed a machine to help her breathe at night. When she reached
that point, she decided it was time to quit. But amazingly, some of her
friends weren’t supportive. They would offer her cigarettes and try to
convince her to start smoking again. Thankfully, she resisted, but those
friends were no help at all.
Fortunately, we get to choose the people we spend time with. For
example, in the early days, when I was still building my business, one
of the men I was working with called me up and asked if we could talk.
We met in person, and he told me that he wanted to take a break from the
business. As I questioned him, I realized that this “break” was
actually a subtle way of quitting. So I responded with, “Ah, man, we
were doing so well. I was really relating to you, we were getting along
really well, and I was enjoying my time with you. We were kickin’ butt.
We were on a path to really growing our business, and I thought you’d
become a leader in our company. And now you want to quit. It’s really
Harsh, right? Well, I was probably a little harder on him than I
should have been, but it was really important to me to make sure I was
surrounded by successful, likeminded people. After all, one of the
pillars of my system is knowing that there’s only one way to turn a
loser into a winner. It has nothing to do with giving them money and
opportunity. It’s all about changing the way they think.
That was a tough conversation, but there was an important principle I
needed to pass on. If you spend time with people who are willing to
give up when they get tired, or when things get tough, their attitude
will influence you. Having courage means loving yourself enough to say,
“I will not let my goals be hindered by people who aren’t willing to
work to achieve theirs.”
It’s possible that my former associate did have a good reason for
taking a break–maybe he wanted to play baseball to strengthen his
relationship with his son. If so, that’s wonderful. But we need to
remember: we can’t achieve our goals if we’re constantly falling back on
Take a few minutes to think. Are you letting excuses stop you from
achieving your goals? If so, it’s time to reconnect with your reason for
pursuing that cause in the first place.